How Common Is Premature Ejaculation and How Can You Prevent It?
When it comes to sexual experiences, most encounters usually fall into one of two categories: exhilarating or embarrassing.
Of course, nobody wants to be on the sending or receiving end of the latter scenario, but it happens. It's totally a part of life, and there are plenty of reasons premature ejaculation can occur. Sometimes, it's just a matter of particular situations; other times, there may be health implications causing your uncomfortable escapades.
Although premature ejaculation isn't necessarily uncommon, it doesn't make the circumstance any more enjoyable when it does occur. With this in mind, let's dive deeper into one of the realities of men's sexuality.
What Exactly is Premature Ejaculation?
Nobody expects you to be the Marathon Man. In fact, a lot of sexual partners would likely prefer their sexual escapades to have a finish line at some point during the night. There's a lot of discomfort that can be experienced from too much friction between the sheets, and if your partner isn't into it any longer, you're leaving yourself open for an awkward finale when you finally do feel that tension-relieving squeeze.
But, guys who experience premature ejaculation don't have to worry about hitting the 26-mile marker because their bodies may pull the trigger shortly after the participants take their places.
The long story short: there is no specific definition for premature ejaculation. It simply means you hit the point of satisfaction more quickly than you or your partner would prefer. According to the Mayo Clinic, "as many as 1 out of 3 men say they experience this problem at some time." While you may feel very alone if you experience premature ejaculation, the statistics indicate you're in good company. One in three men you meet on a daily basis have experienced this situation at some point in their lives; many of them struggle with it on a regular basis.
What Causes Premature Ejaculation?
There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question. Some men experience premature ejaculation on rare occasions. If this is your case, there's probably not much cause for concern because nature has its way of being impolite from time to time. You may:
- Be with a new partner who gets you especially aroused
- Find yourself in a situation that's particularly exciting
- Feel stressed about something related to work, life, or everything in between
- Have emotional or mental blocks that are keeping you from performing in a way that lasts a little longer
- Ejaculate more quickly than normal because certain medications can stimulate the receptors in your brain that facilitate enjoyment
Infrequent premature ejaculation will usually work itself out. However, if you're experiencing depression, mood swings, or other ailments that could be preventing you from keeping it up like you normally do, it might be time to seek the assistance of a medical professional.
For a lot of men, problematic premature ejaculation occurs within a minute or two of penetration. If this is an ongoing issue, it can cause a number of concerns for your relationships and your own personal self-esteem. Whether you're with a long-term partner who may understand what you're going through— or you're busy playing the single-man's deck with an Ace of Spades in your pocket at all times— you want to be sure you can perform at your optimal best when the opportunity presents itself.
Premature ejaculation can rob you of your self-esteem and play mind games with you when it's time to get between the sheets. It's best to head off the situation before it becomes a more problematic occurrence.
How Can You Prevent Premature Ejaculation?
Preventing premature ejaculation starts with knowing why you experienced it in the first place. If it's related to medical or mental situations, you should speak with your primary care or healthcare provider to ensure your body's working at its optimal best. Barring issues that could be related to other circumstances, the following are a few practices you can put into place to ensure your ejaculation happens a little later so you last a little longer:
Do Kegel Exercises
If you're ever a fly on the wall in a women's luncheon situation, you can rest assured that you'll likely learn more about Kegel exercises than you ever wanted to.
Traditionally this has been a sport for women, borne out of the necessity to rebuild pelvic muscles after the birth of children. Over time, both men and women have embraced the importance of Kegel exercises, as the parts of the body they target enhance sexual function and create the best possible scenarios for between-the-sheets situations.
Kegel exercises implore the muscles that make your pee stop mid-stream to be even better at their jobs than they normally would. They tighten those won't-use-otherwise tendons and tell your brain and body to connect on a brand new wavelength. Kegel exercises help prevent premature ejaculation by training your body to alleviate arousal before you climax.
Once you empower your lower half to endure the discomfort of exercises specifically meant for those not-usually-used muscles, you'll likely build up strengths and stamina you didn't even know your body was capable of.
Condoms don't necessarily elicit the idea of fun and adventure, but (besides keeping you safe from unwanted diseases) they can keep your erections lasting longer.
Because they put a barrier between you and your partner's inner parts so you don't feel the immediate sensation of the skin-on-skin action that can cause you to ejaculate too quickly. It's not necessarily about desensitization—although that can certainly help prolong your erections; it's more about finding a way to channel your focuses on the activities of the moment, rather than being sidetracked by the sensations involved with sexual activities.
If you're averse to the idea of traditional condoms, try lambskin or other alternative materials that can help you stay erect longer without feeling awkward during the act.
Consider Adding More Foreplay to Your Routine
If the act of intercourse is what's causing you to bust at the seams, start with enough foreplay to please you and your partner before the festivities really begin. Even the simplest of foreplay endeavors can heighten endorphins and increase dopamine levels in ways that you may not be able to achieve if your sexual escapades are cut short by premature ejaculations.
Masturbate on Occasion
There's no substitute for human-on-human interaction, but if you're experiencing premature ejaculation, it might help to get it out before you get it in.
Normalizing yourself to the sensations of intercourse can help stabilize the way your body reacts when you're facing the potential of putting into a partner. This task can be easier said than done if you're not single. If you're in a relationship, it's important to be aware that your partner may take offense to your masturbating actions if he or she doesn't understand the reason for your actions. Communication is key in any relationship and sexual proclivities are no exception.
Talk to Someone
Sometimes, premature ejaculation is the symptom of deeper situations. Whether psychosomatic or physical, your body's telling you there's something you need to pay attention to. Depression and anxiety can play major roles in the lives of men who suffer from premature ejaculation. In other circumstances, medications and familial situations can prevent sexual experiences from fulfilling their best roles in men's lives.
Everyone's situations is different, and your story is unique from that of your friends and neighbors. Don't be afraid to talk to someone about your situation. The sooner you remedy the problem, the sooner you can enjoy longer sex sessions.
It's important to remember that premature ejaculation happens to most men from time to time. If you've experienced this situation for several months or years, it's best to consult a professional to ensure there aren't more significant health issues that need to be tended to. If this is a one-off situation that's not your norm, you can probably chalk it up to a really awesome partner who just got your blood flowing a little more than you expected her (or him) to! Of course, if you're concerned, it's always best to seek the guidance of a medical professional just to be sure.